A Simple Idea Will Do...;)

No Party gigs, hot air balloon rides,trip around that big city, or trips to Paris. It's a date... it's for you to get to know a girl and for her to get to know you. The problem with the really complicated, fantastic date ideas is that they become both logistical nightmares, and often can even be intimidating for a girl to say "yes" to. To get a handle on what I'm talking about, picture a girl who really likes a guy, and wants to go on a date where the two of them sit and talk and get to know one another, but then he asks her to go play light sports. "I'm not really the sports type..." she says, hoping he'll just ask her to go somewhere chill instead. "Oh," he says, feeling rejected, "all right." And then he walks away. No date. What just happened? Overactive dates that try to be too "fun" can oftentimes end up being too much for girls and they'll say "no"... even when they like you. I'll give you the reverse scenario: I've had girls I liked and wanted to get to know better, but they asked me to go to parties with them or go on some crazy adventure like going to amusement parks and crazy recreation centres or something of that nature, and I've turned them down. Why? Because I didn't really want to do those things, and I figured nothing would happen. Nothing's going to happen at a party date where you're surrounded by a ton of her friends. You won't get to know her much better there, and you can't get together with her in front of 30 people. And nothing's going to happen with the two of you are both laughing and gigling it off at a park. You'll be too tired afterward for anything to happen then, either. And besides, maybe she just doesn't have the energy or the inclination to go do wild parties or hike a couple of miles. Those are great things to do with friends, and activity partners, but they're not so great things to do with someone you're really attracted to and want to be with. And women will sometimes even flat out refuse these things because they don't want the guy to inadvertently kill the attraction they have for him by accidentally plopping himself into the platonic guy pal zone. Bad news you may not be aware of: many of the girls who say "no" to fun dates would rather just get to know you than do off-the-wall activities, and many of the girls who say "yes" to fun dates really just want to have fun -- and could care less who they're going with. They're there for the date, not for you, and your odds of doing anything other than having a nice friendly outing are pretty low. This isn't always true, but it is a lot more often than you might think. But guys often take women's refusal to go on these sorts of high-energy crazy "fun" dates as a universal refusal, when it might just be the activity a girl was rejecting -- not them. To get around this, stay away from inviting girls on crazy wild fun dates, and just invite them on relaxed ones where you can talk. A few ideas: Take her on a picnic Take her to the beach Meet her at a café close to your home Meet her at a chill lounge or quiet bar nearby for a drink Have her come over to your place to cook or watch a movie Pick a date template -- something simple -- stick to it, and you should be fine. It's only when guys try to be crazy and overly clever that it blows up in their faces. All you really need is something laid back where the two of you can talk and get to know each other and build connections... keep it straightforward and she'll probably say "yes." Give her space to reveal 'when best works for her'