Rejecting The FriendZone 'What Goes Wrong'?? -femillions

Just how does some poor schmuck end up in the position of being "like a girlfriend;"
how's a guy who wants to date some girl, or make her his girlfriend, or take her home and shag her silly end up being just friends?

There are three big determinants of whether a man will end up as no more than a woman's friend. They are as follows:

(I) Speed – or the lack thereof. There's no getting around it – men who move fast with women get more girls, and they even do better with the higher quality girls. How come? Because, generally, the longer a man takes to move things forward with a woman, the less she's going to convince herself she likes him. If a guy "works on" a girl for weeks or months and still doesn't take a girl to bed, she's going to view him as a lot less "man" than she does a man who beds her the day or the night he meets her, or on their first date.

And when she looks back at those scenarios and considers them, she's going to think to herself, "Wow, I went to bed with Alex a lot faster than I went to bed with Sam... I must've found Alex much more attractive than Sam if I went to bed with him so much faster. But poor Sam... he's such a nice guy."
You should also consider that a woman will tend to view the man who took her to bed or attempts to as the quickest and as the most dominant, powerful man she's been with; so, you want to strive to be the fastest to bed a girl usually, particularly if you want to have a long-term relationship with her, because in relationships it's always favorable for you to have the woman viewing you as the strongest, most powerful man of her life.

(II) How much you invest in her. The Law of Least Effort comes into play here, as the more effort a man puts into getting together with a woman, the less she's going to consider him a valid romantic option. Women are most attracted to men who get them as effortlessly as possible; if a man gets her while visibly expending little effort, she reasons that she must be quite attracted to him to be doing these things with him despite his lack of investment. The reverse is true, as well: men who invest a great deal of time, effort, and energy investing in women tend to get thought of as unattractive men. If he's such a great catch, why does he have to work so hard to get her?

This is the basis of the friend zoned-guy's lament: "I've done so much for her, and then she goes and runs into the arms of that guy, who treats her like dirt! I just don't get it!

(III) What emotions you show with her. Women are attracted to sexy, mysterious men. They're not, really all that into sensitive men who wear their hearts on their sleeves. You still ought to talk about emotion with women, but that's the thing – you'll be talking about it. Showing it, on the other hand, is something else altogether.

One of the mistakes that men who get friend zoned make is that they often show a great deal of emotion. Whether that's because they're genuinely emotional men, or whether that's because they think they need to be emotionally expressive in order to win women's hearts, it's a turn off to girls.
Showing emotion – whether hope or joy or jealousy or anger or concern or sadness or whatever – is bad for seduction.

Think about women: they're nearly universally all emotional people. And emotional people need other emotional people around them about as much as they need a punch in the face.LOL!!!
Emotional people, rather, seek out others who are "rock-like" and can be solid and unshakeable for them. Note that doesn't mean cold; cold people are scary, because women feel like they're not really building a real connection with them. You still should be warm, but you also should stick to talking about emotions rather than showing them.
Those are the Big 3 of ending up in the friend zone: moving too slow, investing too much, and showing too much emotion. And, naturally, those are three things that most men default to with any girl they like a lot: they move slow (to make sure they don't mess up), invest a lot (so the girl will like them for all they've done for her), and they show a great deal of emotion (so she'll see how deep they are and realize what good guys they are, or because they just can't control themselves around her and act jealous or hopeful or nervous).